Welcome to part two of our guide on the habits and skills of successful parents. Our first post focused on the importance of love and affection, stress management, and relationship skills. Today, we dive deep into the skills of autonomy and independence, education and learning, and life skills.
Autonomy and Independence
This skill focuses on respecting your child and encouraging them to become self-sufficient and reliant.
You can show respect for your child with the following strategies:
- Allow your child to take ownership of their body. This can be as simple as allowing young children to wipe their faces and fix their clothes. You should do your best to avoid micromanaging your child’s life.
- Allow your child to talk for themselves. When we speak for our children, we teach them their opinion isn’t valued.
- Practice active listening with your child. Look at them as they talk and take note of their body language and facial expressions.
- Use kind words when speaking to your child, even when angry.
- Speak to your child as you wish someone would speak to you. Avoid the use of baby talk.
Teaching self-reliance is accomplished with the following strategies:
- Allow your child to make age-appropriate decisions. The Child Mind Institute discusses how parents can help children make decisions.
- Teach critical thinking and problem-solving skills. Toddlers can be taught these skills through various games. One game is “Find the Hidden Object”. Hide an object, then give clues to where the object is located. You can also look at pictures that show a story and ask, “What happened?” Allow your child to explain why the event happened.
- Allow your child to learn from mistakes.
- Teach age-appropriate life skills.
- Ages 2 -3
- Put toys away.
- Put clothes in the hamper.
- Brush teeth.
- Ages 4 -5
- Make an emergency call.
- Give full name, address, and telephone number.
- Identify money denominations.
- Ages 6 -7
- Wash dishes.
- Help put groceries away.
- Make the bed.
- Ages 2 -3
- Educate your child on time management skills. Set times to complete chores or homework. You can also use picture schedules to help your child understand time management.
- Encourage good communication skills.
- Be patient while your child performs tasks.
Education and Learning
This skill focuses on promoting and modeling education and learning. As parents, we should encourage our children to learn and explore. We can teach the value of education by setting aside time for reading and other educational activities. In my post, ‘Choose the Best Books for Toddlers this Holiday Season, ‘ I list various books that boost cognitive skills.
In addition to reading, you can participate in fun educational fun at home:
- Clothespin color match: Collect clothespins of different colors. On a piece of sturdy paper, place colored dots around the edges. Your child will then match the clothespin to the colored dots.
- Walking Water: This experiment shows how water can move between cups using food coloring. The complete directions and experiment can be found at Fun Learning for Kids
- Cup Tower: Use large paper or plastic cups and create a tower. Encourage your child to think of different ways to build the tower.
- Memory Match: Play a game such as ‘Go Fish’
In addition to the above games take a look at ABCDEE Learning for great ideas for toddler activities.
This skill focuses on provision. A parent should plan for their child’s future and have a steady income to ensure their child is cared for in all areas. When looking at our child’s future, we should focus on the following:
- Set up a bank account in your child’s name.
- Get good health insurance.
- Start planning an education fund.
- Teach age-appropriate money lessons.
Having a steady income to support ourselves and our children is critical. We can ensure job success by educating ourselves in a high-demand field. The United States Bureau of Labor Statistics created a list of the fastest growing occupations. Jobs on the list include:
|Median Salary 2022
|Coordinate patient care and may provide primary and specialty healthcare.
|Wind Turbine Technicians
|Maintain and repair wind turbines.
|Postsecondary nondegree and on the job training
|Physical Therapist Assistants
|Supervised by physical therapists to help patients regain movement and manage pain after injuries and illnesses.
|Occupational Therapy Assistants
|Supervised by occupational therapists to help patients develop, recover, improve, as well as maintain the skills needed for daily living and working.
|Use analytical tools and techniques to extract meaningful insights from data.
Thankfully, in our present landscape, we can engage in face-to-face or online classes to help boost our skills.
Extra Cash for Parents
What if you don’t have time or money to return to school and want to make extra money? You can try the following:
- Teach English online. You can find many companies searching for English speakers to teach English. These jobs usually require a bachelor’s degree and a certification in Teaching English as a Foreign Language.
- Transform lives as a fitness instructor. You can lead classes virtually or set up one-on-one training.
- Use your creativity as a social media manager. Many people and businesses do not have the time to manage their social media accounts, and you can help with content and scheduling.
- Become a photographer. Are you creative with a good eye? Get a camera, practice taking pictures, and get set to make extra cash.
- Start an online business. Are you knowlegeable in a field that people are interested in? Are you crafty and have items to sell? Start your online business today.
Thank you for reading part two of what habits and skills successful parents use. Remember, developing good parenting skills requires dedication, patience, and effort. Successful parents must focus on building respectful relationships with their children. Successful parents also teach children how to be self-reliant and the importance of learning. As parents, we should ensure that we have positioned ourselves to take care of our children successfully. By implementing these habits and skills, we as parents can help our children grow into confident, independent, and successful individuals. In our next post we conclude our series by focusing on behavior management, health, religion, and safety.